Clients often describe a behavior or an emotional experience and ask me “Is that normal?” Normal is not to seek the primary cause. Normal is to ignore primary causes and accept symptomatic relief even when it is addictive, even when it has not been thoroughly tested, even the tests that have been conducted lack necessary rigor and control. Normal is a service station washroom. Normal is doing what your parents did because it’s more comfortable to do that than to risk doing something else. My answer is to reassure clients that I don’t intend to go anywhere near normal. Wellness is as normal as being an Olympics athlete. Normal is ordinary. I suggest we head off in a different direction, toward the extraordinary.